I just finished reading this book… “He’s Just Not That Into You” at the suggestion of a coworker and choir director. I’m not the kind of woman who really needed to read the book, I mostly read it for the comedic aspects, but the male author (Greg Behrendt) makes some really good points.
One that I thought was particularly good was “He’s just not that into you if he’s not asking you out.” Basically, a guy should ask a girl out. Apparantly guys like it that way. It’s like the thrill of the fight. “If he likes you, he’ll do the asking.” I’ve always thought that in my head, and I have always refused to ask guys out (maybe for fear of rejection, or fear that he’s just not that into me). Now I know I’ve been doing the right thing.
Also, he’s just not into you if he’s not calling you… “With the advent of cell phones and spped dialing it is almost impossibe NOT to call you. Sometimes I call people from my pants pocket when I don’t even mean to… If I were into you, you would be the bright spot in my horribly busy day. Which would be a day that I would never be too busy to call you” (p.23).
Greg is also good at reminding us women how pretty we are and how much we deserve a guy who treats us like royalty. “You are good enough to be asked out.” It’s good to be good enough.
“There’s a guy out there who wants to marry you.” There better be!
And even… “You already have one asshole. You don’t need another.”
Ladies, if you are having trouble getting over a guy, this book is a good one to read. Plus it’s really funny to joke with your friends about it.
I have had that book on my Amazon list for ages. The title intrigued me. I don’t need the advice at this point, taken and all that, but I will definitely read the book anyway. Sounds great!
Comment by Gina — October 28, 2005 @ 1:45 pm
I heard interviews with him this morning on the radio on the way into work. He and his wife have written another “It’s Called a Breakup Because it’s Broken.”
Comment by Daniel Poth — November 4, 2005 @ 10:01 am